“I don’t trust my heart.”
I was talking with a Millennial recently and used the term “The Heart’s Mind.” He instantly responded, Nah, I don’t trust my heart. It led me wrong too many times.
This is not an unusual reaction. I forgot that “heart” is most often associated with emotion. We know that impulses are natural expressions of the heart, and my young friend probably found, as most of us do, that impulses from the heart don’t always pan out.
Heart definitely contains emotion; it’s where we feel things most deeply. I think of heart as the place where our spirit mixes with our external experience—what we feel, what we know in the physical, and in our relationships. The heart forms a broader and deeper knowledge, and the heart’s mindis the result: a core identity that expresses itself through the intellect, emotions, and the body.
And that’s the point where we can see how the heart crosses over and also “thinks.”
The heart’s mind is that superior element of us that always knows what’s right. We sometimes say, I don’t know it why it’s right, I just know it is right. Or, I can’t explain it, but this just doesn’t feel right.That’s the quality of heart that I’m talking about. It’s that deep knowledge that the mind can’t even express.
And so we want to know what’s going on there, don’t we? In these short talks, we take the time to explore and to know what and who we are, inside the skin, and learn to be true to our entire self.
I use The Cycle of Unconscious Response to watch how my thought patterns form inside and begin to be expressed outside, in spontaneous words and movements. The Cycle begins the moment something unexpected enters my world. In 12 phases, it moves through me and then connects me with the outside world.
When the unexpected happens, we can really see our heart’s mind. It is an opportunity for us to come forward as a whole. In a split second, heart, mind, soul, and body snap together with an instinct that makes use of intellect, emotion, and the physical. And in those rare moments, it’s not the brain that empowers us, from what’s known and expected. We are empowered by that unwavering personal heart knowledge.
The heart’s mind makes identity secure over our lifetime, guarding against being overwhelmed or diminished by other forces, in situations and in relationships. It allows identity to unfold and mature, inside ofwhat we choose to say, do, and give.
The Art of Perspective is about affirming your identity and giving it a proper place within your plans. We want to have that knowledge as we make plans, and as we navigate through life, because life is a participant in the achievement of our plans. We want to be in the space where life supports what we are, more than what we do.
You are literally one of a kind. Identity is the life force that originates and moves inside us, operating an intangible form of DNA—what makes you distinct from every other person*. Knowing who and what we are is a profound grounding force. It is the basis of a meaningful life and a positive perspective.
* Note: Borrowing from the definition of DNA (which determines physicalcharacteristics and functions): The DNA of the human spirit is a self-renewing life force that forms “the fundamental and distinctive characteristics or qualities of someone or something, especially when regarded as unchangeable.”