Hear the audio version: ENERGY
A friend of mine is having to sell a home. It just doesn’t feel good to lose something we work so hard to attain. But when it becomes unavoidable, as in this situation, it’s in the letting go that we actually get a vision. And it’s the circumstances that provoke that unconscious response, that response that is unplanned, where we draw from the intuitive, inborn, instincts—whatever it is that we have in our person that guides us through difficult situations.
I like to encourage people to look into those situations—usually after it’s all over—to see what strengths came forward, and it’s always so much. I have an instinct that has become a practice of helping people directly as they need to find that source of positive motivation that is self-renewing, self-healing, and causes us to move forward when we least expect it, when we think the world has come apart—things that we have counted on just get pulled out from under us.
We’re not devastated if we look into what we have as resources in ourselves. In the 21st century this is critical. It’s critical to know ourselves, to know what we were born with, to know what we have learned and honed together as skills and abilities that just spontaneously pop up.
That’s what “The Cycle of Unconscious Response” captures: it captures the unrehearsed expressions that lie in our heart unrecognized and unexpressed. I have used shorthand to catch those statements when I was interviewing artists, for instance. And I would use questions when I would get into a new situation with a business. It was important to me to find out where they started and what is the line of vitality that pumps through a business. In a corporation that’s really hard to find because you get buried a long way from the heart, literally. But in a small business and especially in solo enterprises or with artists, what we do is just so close to the heart that when we talk about it there’s that personal attachment, and that’s what I look for.
So, recently I was talking with a friend who is going through a transition—and this is not uncommon. I won’t mention the name because over the years I’ve witnessed this happening with many people who started a business, or have gotten into a new job and a new career that really didn’t suit them. Things happen. It comes to a crisis—or even in our personal situations, we’ll have to let go of something that has worked for years and years and years, but it stops working.
I think this is common in the 21st century because last century, everything was up-ended. We changed everything, all the bases of society: in our communication, how we work, how we find work, and how we express ourselves in work. So where it used to be that “work” would denote the idea of a job, now workis simply the effort that we put forth in order to accomplish something we want to do. From that point of view, those transitions make more sense. I can help people see, in the big picture, that whatever started in their hearts is being carried out, even in those losses and those transitions.
By observing this in ourselves, we can build a picture of our own unique strengths, and that is a foundation for confidently walking your life path, wherever it leads.